So, when it comes to homosexuality, there is a certain psychology involved. People, as they mature from childhood and adolescence develop erotic aspects of their personality. As a person who struggles, but is not openly gay, I have noticed a few things in myself and the relationships I have observed.
There is a type of person whose father was distant, abusive, or absentee. This type of person can desire that positive male attention from someone other than dad. This person can fuse sexuality with some kind of daddy issues. I can speak from my own perspective on this. I didn’t have a dad growing up, and I developed this kind of attraction. But the guys I would be attracted to are jerks. For various reasons, I have chosen to remain.. well, not gay. Because “gay” is an self-identification. And being gay isn’t who you are, it’s to whom you have erotic feelings. Am I closeted? No. My family and close friends know. But being this way doesn’t bring me joy or happiness. It brings me great unhappiness. It mars my relationships with my peers, confuses my self-image, and causes me emotional pain and anguish.
There is another kind of person, with whom I am less familiar. For this person, sex and power get a little jumbled together. He wants another, smaller man whom he can control. He desires sex, but it’s a different thing altogether. It’s about being superior, literally as well as figuratively.
You see aspects of this in comics or stories or novels, as this relationship is all the rage today. But it’s a lie. The homosexual act is not pleasurable for one of the partners. It’s intensely uncomfortable, even painful.
I’m not saying anything moral, or religious, or condemnatory in all of this. I’m telling you like it is. I can’t condemn any of this. What they have done, I have thought worse. And the Lord forbid, but apart from His grace I would be much worse than most people, not only in this area but in many others.
I’m not telling you to leave a relationship or do or not do anything. But when media puts this stuff in the forefront, they are often dishonest. Homosexuals, and myself, are some of the unhappiest people I know.
You can’t find this kind of stuff anymore. Books on the subject have disappeared from Amazon. Psychologists and counselors can lose their license for helping a person proceed in a different way other than becoming openly gay. People have been canceled, denounced, and worse for speaking about sexual “identity” in any way that is interpreted as negative.
You will say,”You’re saying we should pray away the gay,” or “You’re talking about conversion therapy,”
To which i will say,
”No, I don’t think you can change your sexual triggers after a certain point in development. But I think there’s a choice other than: Hey, let’s have a bunch of sex and a series of relationships,”
The only reason people are openly gay is because the law permits it. If this were the 30s or 40s, it would be illegal, punishable by imprisonment or poison. There was a time when it was brave to be open about your sexuality were it non-conforming. But that time is no longer. Now it’s easy. You get protections from the law, favoritism when it comes to employment or advancement. People identify as transgender in the same way. Look at “women’s” sports. Well, that’s a different article for a different time. But you get my meaning.