I wish I had some word for you. That it would fix your problems, comfort and encourage you. The best encouragement I can give is true gospel or Jesus Christ. It’s the only true good news.
You have a friend, a family member that has a problem. You would love for a magic wand to fix it, make everything perfect.
I’m reminded of s story of a boy who was watching a butterfly struggle out of its chrysalis. He helped it out. However, that part of the metamorphosis is essential, because it gives the wings circulation and the strength it needs to fly. By freeing the butterfly he crippled it. It would never fly. We see from the horizontal perspective dont really see the advantage or disadvantage of events. Something may be truly bad, but it results in good. Or something we foresaw as good is our worst nightmare.
So the next time you think of your greatest struggle or hurt, know that it may be equipping you for something truly good.